NIAW begins April 22 – 28, 2018. Take the pledge to #flipthescript
This video is a bit long (sorry y'all, theres a lot to say here)
Sadly, there is so much pain out there when it comes to infertility, it affects 1 in 8 and so many people feel a lot of additional emotions on top of all their hurt like shame, simply because infertility is perpetually misunderstood and there is still a secrecy veil around it while women and men suffer in silence. "Together, we can change how others view infertility. It begins with being part of a national movement, National Infertility Awareness Week®. This week unites millions of Americans who want to remove the stigmas and barriers that stand in the way of building families." NIAW 2018
I have a lot of respect for the people who have opened up about their journeys so as the close the gap.
I know when I was in the' infertility circus' I felt really alone and misunderstood. People would try to say helpful things but ultimately the only thing that really helped was to feel validated in my feelings and listened to without judgement. Dealing with pregnancy loss is devastating in a way I simply can't put into words and finding a community of women who understood what I was going through made a real difference for me. (see resolve link below)
The BEST thing I did was to seek help from a trained therapist who held gentle space for me and allowed me to feel everything I was feeling. It was a game changer for me as I began to heal while still in the journey.
I still wear the wounds even though I am finally on the other side of my struggle, blessed with my beautiful family. It remains a part of me and I suspect it always will. It certainly doesn't define me but it did change me and it also give me a huge amount of strength which I still draw on. At the time, I felt anything but strong, I felt so wounded and broken from it but I see now how strong I really was to go through all of that. AND YOU ARE TOO. You may not see it now, but you will. One day, you will.